Huh. Strange opinions I read in the comments.

On moral decision: I will argue bringing a kind to this messed up world is a morally good thing. There have always been good and bad times. And we need people to make those good times. Well raised and well trained people. Even if our generation screwed up, we can at least equip the next generation with knowledge and love to fix what we could not. What about if the world and existence were beautiful and fun to experience? In that case no one would object you to bring a kid to this world. I will tell you a secret. World IS beautiful and fun. It is all about perspective. Well this fully depends on you seeing a glass half full and teaching your kids to see it the same way… Lots of people in the comments seeing this glass not just half empty but seeing it completely empty.

You can also live your life serving others or just serving yourself. It is always more beneficial for you to serve yourself. However serving other can be more rewarding. Serving others is always sacrificial. In case of raising a kid there are some really major sacrifices to be made including all you already mentioned. But this is also one of the best thing you can do for another person. For example even by volunteering you usually do not give people life, do everything for them until you prepare them for living their life on their own. You will have to sacrifice almost everything.

While having a kid will also have some benefits (eg. increased chance of not dying alone). You should not do this for yourself. Raising kids is about them not you.

I personally think if there are kids for adoption it would be morally better to adopt. Because you not only give a happy life to a kid. But you also save someone from a lot of struggle at the same time. However it would be still better to bring another happy and well raised kid to the world if you decide not to adopt (eg. If you feel you could not love someone else’s kid as much as your own)

On actual decision:

• Do what you think is right. Not what will benefit you the most. The empty side of the glass is empty because people decided to prioritize their own benefits over what is right. (You might figure out having a kid not the right thing for you)
• You should know no parent is ever ready to have kids. Parents are just kids having kids. What makes parents parents is a will to sacrifice and will to learn.
• If you decide to have a kid, you should first get your finances in order.
• if you decide to have a kid, you should marry first. To secure your kids future as much as possible.
• Remember having a kid is about them not you.

To setup kubernetes inside lxc you have to enable quite some capabilities inside host kernel and lxd containers that can be used to escalate privileges from beeing root in container to root in proxmox. Not completely sure but since even containerd containers share the same kernel, attacker might escalate directly from pod to proxmox host. But this last par I am not sure about.

I just recently tried to setup k3s in proxmox LXC containers. I had to do everything again after I learned it was not possible to make this setup without comproimising security and isolation. Now I run kubernetes inside virtual machines in proxmox.

Do you mean digital euro? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digital_euro

This would be the only thing that could break visa mastercard duopol. Hopefully 2028

We should hope digital euro breaks this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digital_euro

I down vote stuff for many reasons. In your case it was disagreeing with your view. This next reply I upvoted because I liked your nice response.

I can see only having gay dating pool could screw that statistics by a lot. I admit I do not know a lot about gay community. While I know the (not sure how real) stereotype about way more common one night relationships. I still think this still varies a lot depending on whre you are searching.

Homosexuals I know (in my environment) are all in a very long relationships. My gay neighbors have been married for 10+ years. My gay schoolmate has been in a relationship for a few years and I have no doubt they will eventually marry and live a very happy life.

While I can imagine those percentage being lower in gay community I still believe they are quite significant. Maybe you just have to search in a different environment.

On average, only 14% of those in a couple say they are not very or not at all satisfied with their relationship with their spouse or partner, while 84% say they are somewhat or very satisfied.

And this

The failure rate for first marriage is roughly 48%, 60% for second and 70% for third marriages [source], but at the same time, in 2019 for every 1000 marriages, only 7.6 resulted in divorce, which is the lowest divorce rate in the past 50 years.

So I would not say it is that rare to live happy married life. But it is not like everyone is getting this life. With a hard work I think it is totally possible and is not that rare at all… Although none of those studies give a direct answer on how many happy lifelong relationships there are. One can conclude somewhere between 30-40% of relationships are happy lifelong relationship. And even if this number is lower like 10-20% this is still a very significant number.

When I talk about relationships with my sister she has similar view as you. She can almost never see a truly happy relationship. While I can see it everywhere

It turned out our environments are drastically different. For example she met all of her partners at parties. This is not a general population. While I met my wife in school.

I made most of my friends in school or at work or from being a neighbor (ie owning a house). Most of them are educated and with higher income. If I remember correctly those also have better statistics for relationship success. While my sisters friends are none of that.

I believe it would be wise for you to check if your environment screwed your view too.

I think I can enable or disable my empathy. I could say cold hearted to a person to stop crying and do the right thing. I could even hit a child as a punishment if that were any useful. and give them a better life because of that (it does not work, so I won’t). I am not sure if that even is the real definition of empathy.

But this feeling cannot be empathy since it is does not have to involve relating to another being. It could be some deep and meaningful idea or point or moral of a story. Those usually get me the most.

I do. 25M. For movies, lyrics, stories… Can be most casual things for most people. But I detected some special meaning and I have tears in my eyes. I for some reason got more and more emotional since I was 18. Not sure why though. I hope anyone has some kind of ideas.

I find this strange since I do not consider myself very empatic. And I also consider word empathy cringe since it is often misused to demonize political opponents.

I find your the second very very important. Especially since I have got a child.

I already repaired my 3d printer and I recently learned to use Blender for more creative 3d designs. I created a model and painted it. I like how miniature painting affects my internal calmness. Oh and I will write another short story. I am also finaly making some progress on learning guitar.

Not that I am any good in any of those things I do them because they are fun to do.

I also have quite flexible job. I believe the most important thing one can do for their happiness is really working hard on your relationships.

Marriage, kid, deep relationship with my wife. And my hobbies I am very passionate about.

I am! I cooked two awesome meals and helped my wife finally migrate to linux.

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