Some people are just looking for a story. I don’t think there’s need to view it so pessimistically. I’m lucky to have grown up with family, but people like my grandparents didn’t. You got traded off as a farm hand at the age of 5, or dropped off on the church steps. Seems a very human thing to want clues where you came from, and at the time they couldn’t conceive of the black mirror shit the world is now.

Examples of how toxic masculinity and the patriarchy affects life presented in speech rather than a bullet point list. These terms are describing social structures and expectations. Not about hating individual men. The examples all are absolutely negative products of hegemonic masculinity. Look into sociological/gender studies/anthropology resources on the subject. I don’t have the bandwidth to try and give you a primer on these schools of study, but they readily exist.

The DAILY DOUBLE! Woo.

Real talk. The effects of toxic masculinity are tangled up everywhere, in everything, crossing the blood-brain barrier like micro plastics. If you honestly think it don’t exist, it’s big sign to me that you are wrapped up in it to drowning. People shut down empathy as a trauma response, or because they’re trying to replicate behaviors of a perceived ‘in-group’ (this would be the patriarchy) to gain acceptance. Either way it’s got you. We’re talking a nationwide ban on healthcare based on gender for half the country, and you don’t see it? You don’t think having healthcare is pretty fucking foundational? Is it 1 in 3 women who live under a ban in America now? Having your leaders celebrated for sexual violence not cast down ain’t a sign to you? 'Grab ‘em by the pussy’ is running neck and neck for one of the most powerful executive positions in the world. We’re criminalizing men who wear feminine attire, policing who is woman enough to piss where. The right just fell over itself to mock a kid who was proud to tears of his father. God forbid a man express joy. I keep getting texts from friends floored over the photo of Walz getting bunny eared by his smiling kids. There’s a big reason why seeing them so completely unafraid to tease their father in public is resonating with people.

I’d like to take ‘repression, and over-compensating’ for 500 Alex.

I’m not going to argue which gender is the bigger victim of toxic masculinity. The bodies are stacked too high for me to see over. But please don’t say it impacts ‘much less than a percentage of 1%.’

Like, my father used to tie up my dog and whale on it with a belt when he was angry and that’s probably the least fucked-up-thing-your-dad-did story of my peer group. If you don’t think it’s affected you, you are either very lucky, or somebody who is long overdue to talk it out.

I’ve been screamed at a lot for daring to sit at the short edge of a rectangular table while in the presence of a man. Does that count for father-daughter lessons? This thread is wild.

+1 for sopuli. Chill, only defederates from meta, nazis and sketchy porn.

Bacon, pineapple, and jalapenos. Ambrosia my brother.

They remember the stream where they spawned tho.

Haven’t got to that chapter yet. 🙂

If I had an extra machine I totally would fafo, but alas I must approach with caution.

Working on it, but only on page 5 of Linux for dummies

♥️

By fridge-light at 2am, spread on a soft corn tortilla with a sprinkle of nutritional yeast.

‘Where has the cutting board wandered off to?’ Something passively accusatory. Everyone knows the board didn’t move itself, but the speaker is not assigning blame. …and because everyone knows that there is blame to be assigned, the annoyance is sort of implied?

I’m not sure Edgar Rice Burroughs was going for realism either. It’s just a pulpy action book all about how this noble born white dude is just naturally superior to everyone else just because he’s a lord.

Has the dog had a checkup recently? Had a beagle once that had its health take a slide, and it feeling uncomfortable led to less than great behavior. I’d advise against the ‘tough guy’ route being suggested here. Even if it gets you the results you want in the moment, it isn’t necessary, stability and affection will get you farther.

Well. In hell you’ll find company. The greed of capitalism is a violence, it a fair world it would be punished accordingly.

♫ The dog days are over. You better ru-u-n. ♪

I guess since you are an anthropomorphized dog that all your memes are furry by default?