Look, I have a suggestion that will change your life. You can never live another way again.
Go buy 10-20 pairs of socks, all same. When you get a hole in one sock, you only throw away the one sock. You never have to worry about mixing and matching. If you’ve got two socks, they count as a pair.
I’m not even matching my keycaps to socks, nor wearing anything special, I just found a specific pair of socks I liked and I’ve bought heaps over the years.
Unfortunately the solution is to use a binary package for your gender, which puts you in one of a few common configurations, rather than letting you customize.