Sasha [They/Them]

Yes, that Sasha 🍉

Transfemby 🏳️‍⚧️⬛🟪⬜🟨🏳️‍⚧️
They/them

Anarchist/your local idiot with a guitar

If you’re occupying land in so-called “Australia”

If you eat food

And if you live on Earth

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Cake day: December 12th, 2023

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  • No this doesn’t sound normal. Do you have any other symptoms, including things you might think are normal but that other people your age don’t deal with, joint pain or fatigue for example?

    I thought I was just someone with the knees of an 80 year old, but then I got diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which is almost certainly a misdiagnosis of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Severe varicose veins at a young age is a known symptom of vascular EDS, not something you want to take lightly, I’d suggest trying to rule it out if you do have other symptoms as it’s life threatening.

    I have no reason to diagnose you, so don’t take my suggestion of EDS that way. It’s just worth taking things seriously if your quality of life is being impacted because it might save you a lot of pain in the future. Hence be on the lookout for other problems and consider that they may be related. You should also be careful of doctors dismissing your symptoms as it’s extremely common for illnesses like this to be dismissed as “all in your head” especially if you’re a woman.

    Regardless of other symptoms, I’d still suggest you take it seriously and be sure your doctor is doing the same and not just declaring you healthy for no obvious reason.

    Here's a list of other symptoms I have
    • Non restful sleep (I wake up feeling exhausted)
    • I sleep with a body pillow because my body is too uncomfortable to support itself
    • Insomnia
    • Brain fog
    • Extreme fatigue
    • Tendons that like to dislocate (clicky/crunchy joints)
    • Constantly getting injuries from light exercise
    • Joint pain from everyday activities (it’s physically painful to use my phone while I write this)
    • Regular muscle twitches
    • Widespread aches and pain
    • IBS
    • Acid reflux/heartburn



  • I’m not in anything resembling a hetero relationship, and I’m not even on the gender binary so gender roles aren’t something I ever considered in what I wrote, I don’t know what gave that impression but I do apologise for it. I also made it a point to state that my issues aren’t to do with individuals, so I’m not sure what you mean there.

    My problem is mainly that marriage has historically excluded queer relationships, and through marriage equality has only acted as a way to deny queer culture and replace it with an “acceptable” version. I’ve no interest in marriage as an institution for its exclusion of relationships that don’t fit a traditional western (in my country at least, but the restriction on form still applies in lots of non western places) format, even one that’s been widened the tiniest bit to include gay, lesbian or bi couples. It still excludes transgender people in many places, and makes absolutely no room for things like polyamory and other structures that deviate from the norm.

    As I see it, it’s literally a form of coercion exercised by the state to control relationships. There’s no good reason to lock benefits behind it in the first place, but the fact that people are denied access just because they don’t love people “the right way” is objectively disgusting.

    After some more thought: One of my main gripes with marriage is its erasure of the non-traditional, so I’m very confused that you’ve interpreted my first comment as saying the opposite somehow.


  • I’m on the fence.

    I would like a celebration of the sort and already use jewellery as a signifier of a relationship, but as an institution, marriage is not something I want to be included in. It’s a patriarchal and hierarchical structure which demands compliance to a narrow range of relationships and historically exists to make women and children into property; children are still treated as property such as in custody battles and women are trapped in toxic relationships unable to escape DV and the like.

    The fact that there are so many benefits, such as tax breaks, access to welfare and healthcare (depending on your location) is despicable. There are forms of relationship that are entirely excluded (poly for one example), and many people don’t want a relationship in the first place, why should they be treated as second class citizens? These benefits should be given to people regardless of marital status, otherwise this is a vector for the state to regulate your life.

    Oh, and no I don’t have a problem with anyone who likes marriage, I hate oppression not individuals.






  • I’m probably not exactly what you’re looking for, but I went from considering suicide after I was diagnosed with an incurable disability that turned my life into an existence of pain, with next to no medical support or advice beyond “do yoga about it” to doing suprisingly well in life. I was also depressed before all of that, a shitty person and still trying to escape a really awful person in my life.

    I turned it around gradually, but the two biggest things were getting the right meds (and being absurdly lucky to be one of the rare few who respond to it at all) and starting with a psychologist. Years of dealing with trauma and learning to accept and change the bad parts of myself eventually led to reading leftist theory, becoming an anarchist and meeting some incredible people. At some point in that journey I got on HRT and that did wonders for the worst of my depression too.

    I’m at a point where I don’t think I resemble the person I was two or three years ago one bit. I used to deal with all the bad shit going on in the world by just trying to ignore it and only caring about myself and those close to me, but actively trying to improve the world is infinitely better.