Is therapy an option? Because dealing with resentment is a big chunk of their work.

If not, self-improvement books and podcasts. Brene Brown, Happiness Lab.

Learn about healthy boundaries. Boundaries are for you, not other people. That is, you can’t say “you can’t do that to me” because you only control yourself, not other people. So instead you can say “if you do that, I will do _____” and then do it. That’s putting you in control. Resentment can stem from lack of healthy boundaries.

Learn about mindfulness and practice it. Rumination on the past gets you stuck. Mindfulness has the benefits of helping you recognize your thoughts, giving you some distance from them, and anchoring yourself in the present. Mindfulness builds these muscles.

I don’t know your situation or what you resent so these are pretty scattershot recommendations. A trained therapist can help you identify the strategies that work for you and your situation. If you need help finding one, the directory on psychologytoday.com is great in the US.

If I were an AI, I would be insulted that you consider a ChatGPT my peer.

The problem with MuskLISP is that the only way to check the value of a variable is to delete it and see what breaks.

I read this in the voice of “Macho Man” Randy Savage.

Eraserhead (1977)

The interesting thing to me is that you can code and share your own feed sources. This means you can integrate APIs, or even scrape sites.

Does she want Harris in the Oval Office before January?

They generally asked for your cross streets, then looked at the giant street map on the wall to figure out where you were. Not exactly an unsolvable problem.

Edit: and it’s not like they needed turn by turn directions. Just figure out where to go from the cross streets. Oh it’s northwest of Maple and Cyan, 3 streets into the neighborhood. The drivers can get to the crossroads on their own, that’s just local knowledge.

Why do I get the feeling this is Steven’s commit?

I did miss that, thanks for pointing it out kindly.

It seems weird that the local district’s competitiveness would affect the national weight. The whole point of first-past-the-post voting is to pick one person for everyone. Under your proposed system, people who didn’t vote for the winner lose their influence on the national level. It would probably influence people to vote for the perceived winner instead of their choice.

It might work better under approval voting, where you can vote for as many candidates as you want, but still would encourage people to vote for whoever they think is going to win.

Good question, it’s an interesting idea!

Promotion-packet driven development

The joke is that’s John Cena and he says “you can’t see me”

Wtf https://madewithfreedomfromporn.dullbananas.com

“Get out of the dog house card” isn’t going to work the way either of them think. Pulling that card when you’re in the doghouse is not going to make her fine with whatever upset her. There’s a good chance she’ll say she’s “fine” because she doesn’t want to renege on her chart, but whatever conflict isn’t going to resolve itself because he gave her that card.

Trading sex for chores is gross. I don’t want a BJ or lap-dance from a partner that is only doing it because the sticker chart says she has to.

It’s also insane that things like washing dishes or packing lunches or changing diapers aren’t part of the baseline expectations for a dad. You don’t get an award for doing the bare minimum!

Both of these people are demonstrating the emotional intelligence of a block of cheese.

The more I think about it, maybe that’s ok? You need some vegetation, maybe take an apple or banana, but mayo has protein from the egg, right?

My kids. If you don’t like what we made there’s plenty of stuff you can make yourself.

I wonder if this winds up with revenge porn no longer being a thing? Like, if someone leaks nudes of me I can just say it’s a deepfake?

Probably a lot of pain for women from mouth breathers before we get there from here .

Yeah, and give money to organizations that work to end the first-past-the-post voting system. Work to do the least harm in the current system, and work to change the system.

Kindness can absolutely be cultivated. Mindfulness and Metta meditation can help, but also just doing to work on yourself.

I also would like to urge you to think of kindness as a quality of actions, not people. It’s what we do that matters more than our intentions.

ETA: kindness isn’t always seen as nice. A parent letting their kid suffer the consequences of their actions can be seen by the kid as unkind, but if it helps the kid become more resilient it has kindness.