

They are different because most users weren’t aware of XMPP. They weren’t making a conscious choice to use an open standard. The fediverse, on the other hand, has grown specifically because people are seeing the value of an open ecosystem.
When google started removing XMPP support, users weren’t aware and didn’t care (other than losing contact with a few holdouts). If Meta implements AP support and then removes that support or modifies it so that it breaks some of expectations of the fediverse, most users will move to instances that don’t use Meta extensions. Meta can not take your instance or make it use their extensions, so an open fediverse will always exist.
I use TiddlyWiki via TiddlyPWA. It’s an offline-capable PWA with a very quick sync capability. It works beautifully on my phone and desktop. It doesn’t have folders, but it does have nestable tags, which works really well for me. I don’t think it supports markdown out of the box, but I’m positive you can find a plugin for it. Plugins are crazy simple to install; you just drag and drop a link into you wiki tab and confirm installation.