I’d guess young women do this kind of thing more frequently than women whose prefrontal cortex is fully developed.
Some people put expectations on what they want, and then get confused where they can’t find it. Live life with no expectations, and you’re less likely to get disappointed.
This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
https://bakinghermann.com/zeytinyagli-pirasa-turkish-leeks-with-olive-oil/
I just made this recipe. I eat carrots raw all the time, rarely cooked. This recipe surprised me, the carrots were very, very good.
They’re chopped and cooked on the stovetop, boiled carrots are blasphemy, this recipe was god teir tho
Pot roast? Cook pot roast? No, beef is too expensive, I just cook the pot.
We learn from our mistakes don’t we? Hows it go, it’s only truly a mistake if we don’t learn from it.
It’s still your liberation day, and I still wish you the best in finding what you need in life. Love a good fresh start, be kind to yourself out there, stay genuine to your heart.
I know it can be fixed. It takes time for cultures to shift, but there is a solution.
Voice your frustrations, always voice your frustrations. Lead by example and be vulnerable in front of other men. Never silence your voice, I hear you here. Loud and clear.
…the plot thickens lol
“nobody cares about a man’s suffering” This is simply untrue and I can’t take your story seriously after reading this line, it does sound like youve begun to work on some stuff for yourself, but might be some more to go still. I still got shit,
I’ve watched nearly every man in my bloodline go down the shitty, self hating, misogynistic, alcoholic poor me sad life cycle my entire life. It saddens me most that a lot of these guys had/have great parts about them but choose not to work out their demons, go to a therapist or take accountability for their own actions.
It saddens me the most to watch a man go through life feeling alone, ashamed, and unable to talk about how he is feeling. To watch them chose “masculine” coping, ie: drinking beer and whiskey, while making wife bad jokes and watching action movies to drown out the brain noise. I breifly dated a man who told me he didnt like looking in the mirror because he hated himself so much it made him want to punch the mirror, so he just avoided the mirror. He never went to therapy but came home with a six pack of beer everyday from work religiously. It’s fucking sad, and I hope that guy is doing better today.
And to mention, easily a third of the men I have dated/known/or were family, as young boys, were raped. They just stuff it and live with it. No one talks about how often boys are raped by other men, men they are supposed to trust, and they just go on with life internalizing that shit. Its fucked. Dare I say we need a men’s me too? Even one guy I dated at one point told me his adopted father had raped him when he was 12, but it only happened once so he forgave it. They acted like a happy family outside of this. My jaw fucking dropped. Then you see the maladaptive habit, he was the type who didn’t wash his ass because it could make you gay. Everytime I hear someone making a joke about a man who doesn’t wash his ass, I no longer think it’s funny. I think he might have been raped as a child. Imo we need larger discourse about it, because the pattern can repeat. Internalized shame is poisen.
It all feels out of my control so I just try and do what I can for the people close to me. All in all, It’s okay to make mistakes, its okay to be wrong, a lot of people, all people, many of them struggle admitting they were wrong. It’s also not your fault if you were put in a vulnerable situation. It’s not a sign of weakness. A lot of time thats the only ticket to a demon free brain is just accepted its okay to make mistakes and be wrong, and its not your fault if a bad thing happened to you as an actual victim.
No one cares about men’s mental health, that’s ridiculous. I was 13 years old giving my 40 year old alcoholic father pep talks on how to manage his emotions for christsake. Lmao I really thought I could help him then. I could not-
I have always cared, and many other women do too. But no one knows whats going on unless you use your voice. I’ve watched so many men suffer over the years. It pains me as much as anyone elses suffering, if not more because yall don’t build networks for yourself and often it doesn’t feel safe for you to express yourselves, and thats tragic.
I see this rhetoric all the time online and I will fiercely express, I am a woman, and I care. There are others who care too, stop spreading nonsense.
That’s messed up. I can’t stand people who lie, I’m mad for you
Every time I read about male loneliness, see it in my life in other men, I can only relate, as a woman.
I left a DV situation myself, and found no support anywhere. I ended up starting over in a town bout two hours away from where I knew, and it was literally just me and a baby for four years. Some weeks the only conversations I had with another adult were at work, ir standing at a cash register buying something. I had made one friend, but then she had to go and die. I just had no one to rely on or vent to.
One of the hardest times of my life. In '16 I remember messaging my brother, who at this point I honestly think just lost respect for me for being in a DV relationship, so he didn’t talk to me much, we had once been close. I remember asking him to come over one weekend, I had a grill and some food and beers, offered him money for gas as he lived an hour away. He told me weekends were girlfriend time (7 year relationship). So I explained I was really low, and no one I knew in my life had known me more than a year, I just would really like to laugh with somone who actually knows me, like my brother, and be like we used to and have a fun night.
He told me bluntly, he does not feel pity for people and he couldn’t make it. So cold. I cried like you would when a close family member dies.
I’m watched my husband win the battle with his alcohol addiction. He had a low tolerance socializing before, it’s only gotten worse with sobriety. He’s picking up a hobby now, and after four years sober, maybe not making friends, but sharing a hobby with other dudes. I encourage him as much as I can to continue this.
I’ve met many men who keep social, but I’ve also seen many recluse themselves as they age, and it’s nothing new.
I’m a woman, and I have felt gut wrenching loneliness for so many years of my life. My 30th birthday I tried to work overtime, but ended up leaving, going home to an empty house. When you can only spend $15 on frivious things, I chose vodka, cried myself dry on the bathroom floor, alone, for my birthday. No one messaged me. The guy I was dating didnt even know it was my birthday. I’ve had so many friends pass away too young, and yeah, I protect myself from hurt by not putting myself out there. Im greatful for my husband and son. Loneliness may appear in different ways in different genders, And the media may take that to the extremes. But loneliness is a human thing, it is not gendered
Im sorry OP isnt getting support, I for sure know that sucks. But at least you know whats real and whats not now. Fresh starts are liberating. This is your liberation, and a chance to remake your life in the way you want. I wish OP health and happiness
Fine, yes. I was just throwing an idea out there. I don’t know how to pirate shit anymore, and am to an age where I can afford to support artists directly, so if one can, one should.
Where did the music to pirate come from back in the day? Was it not uploaded from a CD and then file shared?
I did learn in this thread there are numerous other streaming services I was completely unaware of, so thats cool
Yeah it was okay here too, until he hit middle school and a classmate mate told him about it …sigh…
They don’t stay little for long, I know but I was not prepared!
In the early years of Spotify I liked that it stored the songs on your sctual device, so you didnt need an active Internet connection to listen to the songs.
No algorithm but buying physical media again is one path.
A few months ago I got a couple CDs and I’m hoping to rebuild my collection and get off Spotify. It supports artists better, and YouTube is still there to help discover new music.
Buy a CD a month instead of your service. A roll back for technology of course, but worth trying imo
Our musicians are getting fucked with streaming services and I like directly supporting them.
I dislike that you can’t block NSFW stuff. My son found NSFW stuff on Spotify… and I had to take it off our Living Room Tv and ban him from using it for now. I think you can block accounts, but there were so many… Go ahead, search tits on Spotify… fucking wild to me it’s not moderated.
I actually kind of hollered at the ACLU. I did a one time, small donation a few months ago. I am poor folk.
They have been blowing me up since. I ended up picking up the line on a sunday (I’m sorry, I’m not religious, but don’t business call me on a fucking sunday). It might have been Saturday, statement stands either way.
But I was about to have a panic attack. This woman on the other line let me know she was wofh the ACLU and looking for donations or whatever, but I gave her the news. I’m poor, you are blowing up my phone, I gave a one time donation to do my part and now I feel attacked. You want more and more and more, and I can’t. I said, this behavior from y’all makes me regret donating. She tired to say something, I just repeated, I can’t do this, please don’t call me, and hung up.
These politicians in their photos wear suits that probably cost as much as my entire wardrobe, it’s rude to beg money like this. I hate it.
Not my looking like a psychopath to my husband deleting my long time google account to set up a burner (because i cant even use maps/tap to pay without one).
I’m tired of being tracked. Being on lemmy I’ve gotten multiple ideas to help negate these apps/tracking models. I am ever greatful. Theres stil so much more I need to learn/do however.
There have a been a few times over the last few years, that my “bullshit- this is an extemist plant/propaganda” meter has gone off for left leaning individuals.
Meaning these comments/videos are aimed to look like they are left folks, but are meant to make the left look bad/extremist in order to push people from the working class movements.
Im truly a layman, but you just know its out there. The goal is indeed to divide us, and everyone should be suspect of everything the see on the Internet and do proper vetting of their sources.
Another reason I’m glad to be off reddit. I still check the front page with no account, and they posted a wider image, With many in the crowd in blue. To me it looked altered, like one of those black and white colorized photos. I really can’t tell. The comments were full of people defending this.
I truly can’t tell whats real sometimes, but why tf would you wear blue? Even if more did… why? Match your wife dude- culturally in the states we wear black.
As a mother it’s giving: “I don’t care what (your friends) others are doing, My “president” (kid) should have more decency than this”
Obligatory fuck 2025 Reddit
Bro this series in on my reading list. Its been spoiled!
I’m still read it though, sound delightful